Gaining focus.
by Melly on September 4, 2009
in my thoughts on stuff
When I started a self-imposed mini ‘reading-other-blogs’ bloggy break.
I panicked (just a little, I promise).
My mind erupted with all sorts of thoughts on why it was a bad idea.
Here are a few:
“What if people forget you are here?”
“What if when you quiet your mind, there is nothing there?” (ridiculous, I know)
“Wait a minute, I thought you said that you were a giver, you can’t NOT visit & comment on peeps blogs. That’s selfish”
“Blah, blah, blah…you won’t last”
“Are you serious?”
Those little icky thoughts seem to come at the moments I most need the quiet. You see, I was enjoying the connection, comraderie, and inspiration that comes with reading other blogs but it started to overwhelm me. I couldn’t keep up with all the “good stuff” being put out into the Universe.
I’m sure you have been there: trying to visit everyones blogs, make comments, twitter, write your posts, try new things, your daily life stuff, art projects, etc. It was too much of a good thing (yes, I think that is entirely possible. well, for me it is.)
The past few days of slowing down my bloggy visits to none (working to that number), has been both a challenge & eye opening. It’s interesting how much of a habit doing something becomes. You just do it. There is no longer any intention behind it. When you are moving out of that area, it is much like quitting smoking or trying to stop chewing gum (if you always chew gum). WITHDRAWALS.
Not a fan of them. However, I am being patient with myself. Knowing that those feelings are there because I created a pattern plus I long for connection. Neither one of those things are bad.
I just need a break. A time to figure some stuff out. Hear MY voice. Dream MY dreams. Find inspiration in ME.
Will I give up other blogs forever, hell to the NO! Just a mini break.
Call it “regroup-to-find-your-inner-awesomeness-again-and-let-your-dreams-explode” mini blog break.
I will still be writing posts & making little creative changes to my haven. It will also make me much more creative about how I keep in touch. That sounds fun~maybe I can incorporate my love for sending sparkle notes & small pressies.
Thank you for understanding, peep-a-leeps!
PS I started a *new* weekly e-note called “Moonlight & Moonstones” where you will get a burst of inspiration about finding your inner audacious soul. It will be a short & sweet note delivered to you each Friday w/ the occasional surprise & offerings sprinkled in. To sign up enter your name & email in the form on the sidebar. Enjoy! :)
PPS The old newsletter is gone. Just not suiting my needs.
Find out about Me! 
Subscribe to my RSS feed




Melly,
Good for you, taking a break. And it reminds me…I should do that more often. A chance to re-focus. And like you, I have some of those same fears – what will I lose by taking a break. I don’t think about what I will gain. Maybe it’s all on how we focus around this idea. Anyway, I think it’s great you did this. And at the same time…it’s so good to see you here too….
Lance´s last blog ..Detours on the Path of Life
Hi Melly Hocking
I just got your wonderful sparkle note this afternoon and wanted to send you a thank you and a big sparkly hug. What a treat with the little bead and book mark. You totally made my day.
xo
Lisa/Kavindra
Kavindra´s last blog ..10 things to do
Lance- I know I will be enjoying the break. It’s an idea that came to me in order to spend some time focusing on my creative projects & gain some clarity. I find it somewhat hard when I am trying to keep up with all the other bloggy greatness.
While I won’t be going to other blogs for awhile, I *WILL* be keeping in touch. Don’t you worry!
Your friendship is such a wonderful joy, Mr T. Thanks for your constant support!
Lisa- I’m so glad you enjoyed the sparkle note. It was fun to do! Would you do me a favor & pass on the news of the sparkle notes? I would love to keep the project going, making and sending out more
Thank you either way!
It’s always good to take a break. I have done the same myself (for a little longer than intended). It helps me pull back and determine what is important to me, then I wade back in carefully and pay more attention to what I truly like and what I’m doing out of habit.
Sherri´s last blog ..Photo Friday: Cypress Trees