Flower Friday: Finding a way to ask for what you need

Yesterday, I ventured out & put an idea on display.  Sharing a desire to write more hand-written letters and have you join in on that process.  It seems like such a small thing but I will tell you, for me, it is huge.

Whenever you share a secret desire or intimate detail you run the risk of people not responding or even more challenging, thinking what you are doing is pointless.

Don’t let it stop with that fear.  Gently approach it.

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I wish I could tell you that you will always enjoy the growing process.

There are moments you may giggle with glee & dance around claiming the victory that is rightfully yours.  The one you ‘work’ really hard to get.

Other days, it’s a challenge.  You run for that favorite “superhero” necklace & put it on to give you some sense of safety.  Lighting that candle because seeing the flame comforts you. Anything to help make you feel like the journey is on the right course.

Both are ok.  They are all part of it.

I wrote todays post, yesterday (it went into a folder for another day). It was brave & plucky, then I woke up this morning and felt so opposite to that very thing.  For some reason, I felt nervous.

Then I put my finger on what it was.  I hand-delivered a “new” thing out there & got met with not much notice.  Not like the kind I hear about others having where they get praised all day long (comparison trap).  That discouraged me.

As I sit here,  I can’t help but think “What do they have, I don’t?”  The real answer is not a damn thing.  We both have our gifts, our ‘stumbly bits’, our journeys into an unknown future.

*the fact that I can even ask that question is complete joy to me.  Being brave enough to see that I have my gifts to offer the world & not letting the comparison trap suck me in (for too long anyway!).  That probably wouldn’t have happened a year ago. Score!*

Then it hit me.  ”WHY am I doing this?”

It is very clear.

1) I love to create & share, it’s where I find my most serene joy.

2) Encouraging others to live their most true is a fervant passion, I can’t imagine NOT doing it.

“Lightbulb Moment”: Ignoring me is not being true.  I don’t roll that way anymore.

*some of you might have wanted the plucky/fiesty post.  You may get one in the near future. I feel like I am building a foundation.  That doesn’t come fast unless you want a building that collapses at the first sign of stress. I also want to write real, so the people out there whose fears seem to rise up out of control, know that they aren’t alone. We all have them. Trust that.

Starting today I take a step into an exciting place.  I will be doing my “Moonlight & Moonstones” Project for the next 30 days.  I’m so stoked!  The idea of sharing a bit of artsy-magical-written goodness with people is SO GROOVY! (if you want to receive a written sparkle note in your mailbox, sign up via the sidebar by clicking on the “what is a sparkle note?” link)

Let me tell you something that might make it easier to ask for what you need:

We are all scared to put stuff out there at one point or another.  To appear vulnerable.  Usually, the more personal the bigger it feels.

Start with a deep breath. Then just trust YOU.  Share what you want; occasionally more just to get out of that ‘safe zone’.

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Realize this: Some peeps are gonna love you & ‘get it’.  Others will walk away. Either way, you are still awesome.  What you bring to this world fuckin’ rocks. Never doubt that.

When you need or just plain want something. ASK.

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” -Dr Suess