“the ones who are meant to get it, will. Other peeps will go elsewhere.”

This doesn’t only apply in the bloggy world. It also applies in the real world. Recently, I’ve been working on releasing the need for my friends and loved ones to “get me” or to agree with me. There are plenty of times when I don’t agree with them, so who am I to want them to always agree with me? It isn’t easy, but allowing people to be who they are will send messages that they should allow you to be who you are.

Are you familiar with “The Work” of Byron Katie? If not, you should look her up and watch some of her videos. She often asks the question, “Who would you be if ___________(fill in the blank)?” In particular, I’d like to ask you who would you be if you didn’t always feel like you had to constantly be “working” on yourself? Who would you be? How would life feel?

Now that I’ve asked you that, I’m starting to wonder the same thing about myself. Thanks for sharing your story and holding up a mirror to all of us. Not surprisingly, we find commonalities in our suffering. But here’s to finding commonalities in our joy!
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Jessie- I am right there with ya, chica. I want you to know that last summer I frequented your blog & stumbled onto the ‘Be Brave’ project. I’m firmly convinced that it has lead to so many cool adventures and discoveries. Not always the awesome fun kind but powerful non-the-less. Thank you for YOUR bravery and sharing not just your strengths but those “stumbly bits”. Cheering you on. Rock on with your ‘bad’ self…(there is the slang coming out)

Craig- Very wise thoughts. Kind of interesting how thoughts get jumbly and contradictory like that. I’ll be reading your book next week. Look forward to seeing just what the Sedona Method is about.

Leonie- Thanks for your unwavering support, lovie!

Lance- Mr T!!! Your friendship is so solid. I thank you for it~

Linnea- Thank you for sharing with me. Sorry to hear about your summer being of the challenging kind. It’s good though that you are aware & learning about the different sides of you. I wish you lots of love & gentleness as you walk on this life journey. It can be a tricky one but so worth all the effort.

Christine- You know how I feel. Thank you. Love.

Simone- Nice to have you visit my bloggy world. I like what you said about what I think are MY skeletons & embaressments are MANY peeps. So true. A fact it would be good for me to remember. To live little more accepting of my foibles. Thank you.

Heather- That must mean something. Right? Maybe? Either way, I’m glad our paths crossed & I can get to know you! My life is the better for it~

Hiro- I like wry. Oh my goodness I love this: You are the perfect you that ever was. *SWOON* Embracing that!

Brandi- You are NEVER too late to any party I have (but you know that)! Being gentle & loving is key in these situations. No matter how many times I hear that it’s always great to be reminded. Thanks for being my fiesty doppleganger! You make my journey joyfull & lovely~

Hugs, Hiro
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Once again, our paths seem to be taking us through similar issues.
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Good job for opening up I like your candor.
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Krishnamurti said, “Truth is a pathless land.” Perfect. And truth telling certainly seems to be integral to your landscape, Melly.

Also know that this work is a life time’s work. It’s why so many people don’t bother. It’s hard and there really is no end.

But that’s also why this work is the most wonderful and most fulfilling work.

I have many of these same restrictive thoughts about myself (the “fitting in” hit me in the gut; it’s my biggest shadow deity), but, as Anais Nin said, “… [T]he day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” It still hurts, but I believe I can breathe through it. So can you.

Instead of worrying about what someone will think, admire your courage to be honest and to share. I do.