this is the way i ‘roll’

what is a blog?
what is it meant to do?

for some, it is a place to sell products. others inform. some share. some create. it seems like they are as vast as the personalities that write them.

i have been doing a lot of reading and hearing advice on how to write a blog that gets more traffic. at first that sounds very appealing to me. an ego rub. who doesn’t love that idea.

at the end of the day though, this blog is a way that i share my heart with the world. in a way that comes a little more easily everyday. you see, i am shy. quiet and reserved but that doesn’t mask guile. it is because well i am super-duper self conscious.

so today i want to just share a few ways i found that moved me out of that realm a bit. if i can do it anyone can.

try some of these when you feel less than stellar (i’m no expert just a gal who tries things and sees what helps):

CONNECT

for goodness sakes, do not just isolate yourself and dwell on the things that are bothering you.
call a friend.
give a dog a smooch.
eat an ice cream cone on the beach.
hug a child.
talk to birds ( i did this one the other day just don’t expect them to talk back).
be kind to a stranger (my personal fave).
make a card for someone in hospice.
there are so many things you can do. look inside your heart. take a deep breath and ask yourself “what do i really need in this moment?” i promise that if you listen you will hear what you need. it works. *for those super serious types be prepared to maybe hear something wacky. Just try it. Even if your heart says “call a friend and ask them to eat caramels”. you never know what will open up.

READ

a few days ago, i was feeling a bit overwhelmed and couldn’t put my finger on why. it was this general sense of unease. i have had a ton of things on my mind- i’m an overthinker and feeler, learning how to let it help me instead of send me into what i call my ‘melly spirals’- so what did i do? i went to my bookshelf and pulled out a book i like a whole, whole bunch and just began to read it. i’m not saying that the world becomes rainbows and lollipops but in the action of reading (and i think out loud is best!) there is a ‘rest’ that happens. the best way to describe it is that my body calmed down and my soul melted into the words on the page. it suddenly wasn’t as important if i knew where my next job would come from or whether people liked me or not. simply enjoying taking a ride with the author. experiencing their journey for even a few minutes.

NATURE

I’ll keep this one short and sweet, it works 100% of the time. If you feel grumbly…run, don’t just walk…outside. touch the earth. look at all the beauty around you whether it be the clouds, beach, mountains, trees, birds (for someone who has a fear of birds i talk about them alot!). it is an amazing world. embrace it.

TALK OR WRITE *whatever you connect to the most

It helps to get the stuff out of your head. ‘Nuff said.

TAKE CARE OF YOU

the world we live in seems to really dislike looking after your well-being. making sure you eat properly. taking care of your body. pampering yourself. resting when you get tired. working efficient. it is all about moving faster and faster until you can barely retain anything that isn’t a 5 second sound bite. my little nugget , i am putting into practice in small snippets (‘baby steps’), my well being is the core. if i am rested, well fed, nurtured, relaxed, and aware i can face challenges with more grace and love. it isn’t just about me reacting. it is me being proactive. my life.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT

for all the perfectionists out there (me,me). it is ok to want to bring your very best out. try not to let it take charge. notice what part of you is feeling that you have to be perfect and acknowledge it. sometimes there is a good reason why you think you can’t make mistakes and listening will show you where more self-love is needed.

**please know that when i share these few things it does not come from a place of thinking i have my shit together because..if you have read this blog for any length of time, you know that i am on a journey. not to be confused with any sort of guru.
just me. laying it out there.

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leaving for Lake Havasu on saturday. working on a movie about killer fish. whooohooo!

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i have many exciting things in the works.
hush-hush. secret agent stuff.
it makes me giggly just thinking about it.

(and i am so not a giggler, well maybe a little) *wink*

can’t tell you yet because
i am still doing some fine tuning.
be patient.

here is a hint:
i want fun.
i want real.
i want to connect.
i want to bring you useful stuff.
i want to share ideas (mingling).
i want YOU to be a part of it.

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rituals can be fun

recently i started taking an ecourse
with called uplevelling your life
with the fabulous christine kane.

let me tell you. it has challenged me
in ways i didn’t even imagine it would.
i thought it would be just another self help
thing i tried and it “wouldn’t work for me”.

(**now i am not slamming any of the wonderful resources
i have bought, i just firmly believe it is all about timing
with inner work. clearly, the time was off, so i save them
to pull out when i can more clearly engage with
the systems**)

so back to the uplevel course.
you’d think i would just go along
doing everything perfectly and being
27 days in: feel really great, find i complain
less, have my positive scripts in place,
have good daydream-y moments, etc…
all things christine teaches you.

it didn’t happen exactly like that, i
will tell you how it really went down.
got the course.
very excited.
then i got scared.
then i didn’t go near it for about
a week. i was pre-intimidated.

*mind you christine is one of the most gracious,
firm teachers around, so there is really nothing to
fear. she is gentle and also believes you need to
get a nudge. she does it in the cool way though.
no muss. just puts things out there and lets them
simmer. SO the fact i was nervous, was completely
mel doing freak out pattern!

after that i slowly started listening to
the daily lessons. many times i would
try to take on a few in a row. usual mel style!
it then became clear that i was going to
have to use this one different to create
any REAL change. it has to be mel and the uplevel.
i noticed one totally cool thing, i can hear “me” better.
i am paying attention to my thoughts.
i hear when i complain.
i hear when i am grateful.
i hear when i need to do something for me.
i hear when i am hooking.
i hear when i am going into default patterns.
(that is a way challenging thing i face pretty much daily)

all this to say, it is slow going.
becoming clear in my everyday thoughts.
especially since i tend to keep all sorts
of mental busy with ‘junk’
i am enjoying the journey.